Couples Counseling

A good travel partner makes life’s journey meaningful and worthwhile, and makes the journey itself a pleasure. When the basic mechanics are working smoothly we are close and connected, feeling good about ourselves and our partner, and conflicts along the way can be navigated without getting off course. Without relationships that provide intimacy and comfort our road is rough; we are anxious, depressed and our emotions are not comfortable.

You started out together with such hopes of a warm, comfortable, and exciting journey together. Now you are stuck and the road is rough, maybe too rough to manage anymore. You wonder how it is possible to be both trapped in too small of a space and to be too alone. Where is the passion that helped keep you on track? You are worried about being able to get back on the road together. Can we move on together, or is it time to move on apart? What can we do?

In couples therapy we can understand what is not working now, and change the direction you are going. A new map can help you chart a new course. Maps that helped you navigate your past important relationships may actually be leading you painfully apart in this most important one. I have an appreciation and understanding of the intensity and complexity of a couple’s relationship and I can help you two negotiate an exchange of old ways of being in relationship for ones that can bring you together. I will provide a clear road map to move in a different direction. Working together we can increase your closeness and strengthen your connection.

About me. I completed my Ph.D. in Psychology in 1979. In 1992 I completed my post-doctoral work in psychoanalysis; the in depth study of development and personality. My focus of study is on how we weave together our experiences with relationships into our unique selves. I have been in private practice since 1980, and through these years have in a deep, respectful and helpful way heard the unique experience of many different couples.

Contact. If you would like to make an appointment or have any questions please contact me. My voice mail is confidential and answered only by me. I will call you personally to discuss your questions and arrange for an appointment if you want to do this. In our first meeting we will discuss your goals and wishes and decide together how best to proceed.

Phone: 503.224.8116
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